Real love and dating
They didn't have to tell me through a text they were passionate, I could it.I didn't have to endure the difficult work of predicting if they would make me double over laughing; it either happened or it didn't.My personality, my humor, my empathy, even my snack-readiness, with no thumb-crafting involved.We know humans crave connection—real, deep, meaningful connection.Moving away from dating apps sounds liberating—and it is.You'll realize characteristics that only matter inside your phone screen——have been worrying you way too much outside of it.But how does one even meet people without an app anymore?Approaching strangers in bars is harder than it's ever been; we leave our dating to our phones, and real life is spent inside the confines of our tightly knit friend circles.
Your best chance at not getting eliminated before you even start is to conform, in which case you arrive safely in the dating pool without any of the things that make you, you.The chemistry isn't very complicated if the ingredients never touch. I swapped my swipe for a tap into all the social events the internet could offer. I filtered for the things I liked doing, and indirectly filtered for the types of people I would meet.I went on to take a boxing class, and joined a new gym. Add to that the kicker: When I showed up to the online dates I wasn't interested in, I had wasted a night.Dating apps reward homogeneity, sifting everyone into two-dimensional profiles that look the same, sound the same, and in some cases, even algorithmically identify which picture is best to represent you for the largest possible audience.Of course, people don't love each other for what makes them the same; they love them for what makes them unique.