My boyfriend has been on dating sites
Setting traps or tests for your partner really isn’t a healthy way to deal with conflict either, since it uses dishonesty to further break down trust rather than using open, honest communication to build it up and address the real issues.
If you used unhealthy methods such as these to catch your partner on these apps, be prepared to own up to and address your own behavior when confronting your partner.
but we got back together and i thought we were on our way to work things out. why is he on this site if not to look for someone else.. I was also thinking that If he goes on a date I just turn up. At the same time I could just join i and address the issue might as well while I'm there... It was a kind of self harm which again nobody knows because I find it embarrassing.
But for some reason my gut told me something was off.yes! I found on his computer chat conversations he was having with random girls .. In one of those chats he introduces himself."such in such" from POF.. The profile says hes just there looking for friends, that he isnt seeking commitment or relationship. However all other info like city and age are also false. I felt I'm not lovable and well ..hated myself for it.
It can also be helpful to ask yourself how you see your relationship moving forward from this discovery.
And of course, our loveisrespect advocates are here to talk the situation through with you 24/7 by calling 1-866-331-9474, chatting at or texting LOVEIS to 22522.When we decide to trust our partner, we choose to have faith that they are honoring the boundaries of our relationship—even if they have broken them in the past.Trust is essential for any relationship to be healthy, so if you can’t trust your partner, it might not be the right time for the two of you to be in a relationship.However, it would be unhealthy and controlling to demand that a partner delete dating profiles/apps or make them show you their phone regularly to “prove” they are being faithful.Even if you discover that your partner used these apps to cheat on you, it’s not okay to control or monitor them in any way.