She recommends that partners talk about and set relationship goals that satisfy them both."It's also important to spend time with relatives, friends, and family to broaden the circle of support," she says. Try separating for certain periods of time to create a healthy dependence on one another." But do keep in mind that your actions may unintentionally worsen a codependent relationship, Wetzler says.This is supposed to happen after the honeymoon phase.
"You can become burned out, exhausted, and begin to neglect other important relationships," Burn says.One key sign is when your sense of purpose in life wraps around making extreme sacrifices to satisfy your partner's needs."Codependent relationships signify a degree of unhealthy clinginess, where one person doesn't have self-sufficiency or autonomy," says Scott Wetzler, Ph D, psychology division chief at Albert Einstein College of Medicine.If that kind of one-sided pattern sounds like yours, you don't have to feel trapped.There are lots of ways to change a codependent relationship and get your life back on an even keel.