Being too accommodating in a relationship
And perhaps it is true, that they are selfish, but the real problem is not being addressed because it is buried deep in your soul.
Perhaps the underlying problem is that you don’t actually trust them.
Furthermore, at least 50% of the responsibility lies with me.
There's a big difference between imagining what's hot, and actually getting what's hot.
It's quite possible that she's not capable of making you happy -- but because you imagined it, there's DEFINITELY someone else out there who's WAY cuter!
I think it would have been better off if I had ended it much earlier and moved on. My natural inclination was to let the friendship fade away, but after careful consideration, i confronted her and we sorted it out. If it is not truthful and not helpful, don’t say it. Often we say this or that is what upsets us, but actually it is something far deeper.
For example, you are arguing with your spouse about them being selfish supporting this with certain events that have happened and their behaviour.